Woman’s Buide to Being a Man’s Best Friend

1. Be good to yourself so you can feel good about being good to him.
2. Always tell the truth even about the smallest detail.
3. Trust that he will always tell you the truth.
4. Understand the pressure he feels to be the primary wage earner.
5. Let him know that his best is good enough.
6. Let him know it’s okay not to always have to be so strong.
7. Don’t try to change him.
8. Understand that in some ways he’ll always be a little boy and let it be okay.
9. Don’t ever be demanding.
10. Be his fantasy.
11. Understand his need to show off a little.
12. Let him make the choice when the choice isn’t really important to you.
13. Baby him when he doesn’t feel well.
14. Send him loving cards or messages at work.
15. Don’t always have to be right.
16. Encourage him to fantasize.
17. Compromise easily.
18. Put your arm inside his as you walk beside him.
19. Arrange his pillows so he’ll be comfortable as he gets ready to fall asleep.
20. Give him a massage.
21. Let him know that staying hom on Saturday night can be perfect.
22. Don’t shop for clothes when you know he is under financial pressure.
23. Include his favorite foods in your shopping list.
24. Be sure he knows that you are proud of him.
25. Never embarrass him.
26. Make love to him.
27. Be responsible for paying the household bills.
28. Let him pick the restaurant.
29. Don’t compare him to other men.
30. Listen to him without interrupting.
31. Never let him see you looking at another man.
32. Don’t smoke or abuse alcohol and drugs.
33. Be patient when he wants to watch his favorite sports on T.V.
34. Listen to him tell you about his work.
35. Make good eye contact and help him do the same.
36. Be patient when he refuses to get directions when he’s lost.
37. Light candles in your bedroom.
38. Tell him that he’s the best you’ve ever had.
39. Buy him a new toothbrush every so often.
40. Live within your budget.
41. Bring him water and something for his headache.
42. Balance your checkbook.
43. Wash and fold his laundry when you can.
44. Run a bubble bath for him.
45. Give him a warm towel from the dryer when he gets out of the bath.
46. Be his playmate.
47. Take a shower with him.
48. Make sure he eats breakfast.
49. Suggest changes rather than complaining.
50. Kiss him good–bye and tell him to be safe as he leaves for work.
51. Tell him he’s sooo big and strong.
52. Caress him often.
53. Let him pat powder on you after you shower.
54. Let him rest when he’s tired.
55. Encourage him to take vitamins and one aspirin daily.
56. Kiss him often on the lips.
57. Thank him for working so hard.
58. Wear a fragrance he likes.
59. Never talk about your former boyfriends.
60. Let him choose the car he wants to buy.
61. Don’t ever imply that you wish he earned more money.
62. Don’t yell at him.
63. Allow him to cry when he needs to cry.
64. Put your head on his chest and cuddle with him in the morning.
65. Let him sleep while you’re up with your child at night.
66. Share healthy meals together.
67. Don’t check up on him.
68. Don’t wear too much makeup.
69. Prepare the coffee maker so it’s ready for him in the morning.
70. Exercise regularly and encourage him to do so often.
71. Encourage him to go out with his friends.
72. Write all the thank-you notes.
73. Keep the picture albums up to date.
74. Encourage him to stay in touch with his family.
75. Tell him you love the way he looks.
76. Accept his need for sexual release.
77. Let him know he makes you feel good.
78. Encourage him to reach for his dreams.
79. Maintain a carefully groomed appearance.
80. Never say anything which would make him feel unworthy.
81. Help him to express his sensitivity.
82. Make sure he has regular physical checkups.
83. Plan an evening that’s special for him.
84. Understand and be patient with his feelings of insecurity if you earn more money than he does.
85. Help him to feel loveable.
86. Be patient while he’s learning to be your best friend.
87. If he’s not trying to be your best friend forgive yourself for not wanting to be his.

Source: Woman’s Buide to Being a Man’s Best Friend by Michael Levi

Man’s Guide to Being a Woman’s Best Friend

1. Best totally honest about everything even the smallest detail.
2. Listen to her without interrupting.
3. Cuddle with her in the morning and bring her coffee.
4. Tell her to be safe as you kiss her good-bye in the morning.
5. Shower and shave before getting into bed at night and then “don’t” bother her (I suspect some women want to be “bothered”).
6. Go grocery shopping with her on Friday night and help put the groceries away.
7. Never say anything which will cause her to feel unworthy.
8. Never say anything that will embarrass her.
9. Never go into her purse for anything.
10. Don’t dominate conversation about your work.
11. Give up anger you have at yourself.
12. Never open her mail.
13. Always do your best at your job.
14. Establish and live within your budget.
15. Never do anything which is embarrassing.
16. Give her space when she needs it.
17. Always make eye contact when she is speaking to you or you to her.
18. Take out the garbage.
19. Take her out when she hasn’t had time to prepare dinner.
20. Never expect anything in return.
21. Sometimes hold her face in your hands when you kiss her mouth gently.
22. Prepare the children’s school lunches.
23. Never patronize her.
24. Bring her breakfast in bed once in a while.
25. Empty the dishwasher.
26. Give her your jacket when she feels cold.
27. Help her clean the house.
28. Have her car washed and filled with gas over the weekend.
29. Say thank you when she prepares dinner.
30. If she’s employed let her know that you appreciate that she’s really carrying two full-time jobs.
31. Clean the bathroom sink and wipe the water spots off of the mirror.
32. Make love to her.
33. Don’t rush her before the two of you are leaving to go someplace.
34. Pick your clothes up off the floor.
35. Be consistent in your behavior and temperament.
36. Know when her menstrual cycle begins and don’t expect to be patted on the back just because you know.
37. Don’t ever criticize her.
38. Encourage her to fantasize.
39. Don’t smoke or abuse alcohol and drugs.
40. Never let her see you looking at another woman.
41. Be her playmate.
42. Maintain a life insurance policy on yourself.
43. Help her examine her breasts and encourage her to get a mammogram every year.
44. Shower and shave before you make love to her.
45. Enjoy and appreciate the little girl in her.
46. Bring her water and something for her headache.
47. Keep every promise.
48. Encourage her to go to her class reunion (perhaps even alone).
49. Never make a left-hand turn with her in the passenger seat unless you are absolutely certain there’s no risk from oncoming traffic.
50. Scratch her back in the morning.
51. Be patient with your children.
52. Call her whenever you’re going to be later than she expects.
53. Don’t bring your work home too often.
54. Never compare her to any other woman.
55. Never criticize clothes she’s wearing.
56. Share the responsibility of driving the children.
57. Make sure the tires on her car are safe.
58. Admit you’ve been wrong.
59. Never expect her to admit she’s wrong.
60. Never comment on the existence of a pimple.
61. Hug her a couple of times each day.
62. Be pleased with anything she’s prepared for dinner.
63. Let her know you notice and appreciate even the smallest things she does for you.
64. Anticipate her needs.
65. Ask her if her day was a good one and listen attentively even if you know what she’s going to say.
66. Kiss her before you go to sleep.
67. Never yell at her.
68. Let her mind be your playground.
69. Walk beside her not ahead of her.
70. Encourage her to reach for her dreams.
71. Express your own loving feelings in a greeting card on her birthday or on your anniversary.
72. Go to bed at the same time she does at night.
73. Prepare your will.
74. Never hide anything from her.
75. Be open and vulnerable.
76. Let her get dressed in privacy.
77. Replacer the empty roll of toilet tissue.
78. Realize it’s never important to win an argument.
79. Help her to feel secure.
80. Never let her come home to a sink full of dirty dishes.
81. Go with her to your children’s teacher conferences.
82. Practice perfect personal hygiene.
83. Remove the dishes from the table after dinner.
84. Place her pedicure ahead of anything you may want for yourself.
85. Make all monetary decisions with her and keep her informed.
86. Work every day on improving yourself.
87. If you have not been her best friend until now don’t blame her if you don’t feel loved.

Source: Man’s Guide to Being a Woman’s Best Friend by Michael Levi

Full Moon Ceremony

The Ceremony Begins

Call in the darkness around and shut off all the external lights in your cave. Then tune into a small focused light, or candle, at the center of a circle.

Sit at the edge of the circle and invoke your Beloved sitting across from you (or be physically present in the room). Hold the heart of your Beloved in the center of the circle.

Sit quietly and invoke the natural biochemistry of your brain to kick out endorphins to create an altered state of consciousness. Listen for music in the background. Chant a monotone, “Om (aum).” Rock your body gently back and forth slowly. Reach out and hold both hands of your Beloved. Notice the sensation of warmth and energy flowing between you.

Then draw a card from the “Mayan Oracle” by Ariel Spilsbury and Michael Bryner. Place the cards on the altar in the center of the circle. Read them after the full moon ceremony is complete.

Concentrate on the small external light, the warmth and energy within and the two symbols before you. Continue to chant, rock slowly and notice each breath “in and out.” Be mindful of the breath and send a wave of loving kindness to your Beloved. Feel the connection with your Beloved’s heart. Feel the love flowing, growing, circulating and returning.

Imagine the luminescent glow of the Beloved’s face, transfigured, smiling and looking into your eyes. Feel the immense love for your Beloved welling up and overflowing in your heart. Send this huge love towards your Beloved and feel the returning.

Feel the longing for your Beloved grow until the moment of first sadness, or a tear drop, then stop and hold the breath, release the sadness and tears, stop and hold the breath for an eternity if you must. Release the sadness, tears and longing into the Great Mother Earth below your feet.

Continue this practice as many times as you desire until you can sustain the intense longing and love growing within your Beloved’s heart and your own. Remember there is only one of you. With your hands extended wash your physical body with this energy, nourishing each of the seven chakras in turn – 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th.

Feel the energy and kundalini of your immense passion growing and rising within, then releasing this ecstasy through the 7th chakra or crown and returning to the heart of your Beloved. Feel the love and joy in the heart of your Beloved as you nourish each chakra in your Beloved’s body. Feel the connection with your Beloved’s heart, the love growing, flowing and returning.

Chant “I am Source” Repeat this chant over and over until you feel the oneness with the Great Being. Relax when ready into this altered state of consciousness and blow out the candle. Give thanks for the blessing of this day and this ceremony.

Guidance from a Beloved Friend

While I was on an involuntary monastic retreat for two years, I desired a strong and powerful connection with my beloved. To accomplish this required the two of us to synchronize our meditations, prayers and activities in such a way as to amplify our telepathic connection. So we devised a series of “Practices for Beloveds” to keep us connected in the love during our separation. That was the beginning of this blog which is now yours.

GUIDANCE

First, you’ll want to access or purchase the following:

• “The Four Agreements” and “The Four Agreements Companion Book” by Miquel Ruiz
• “The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire” by Deepak Chopra
• “Rumi: The Book of Love” by Coleman Barks
• “The Holy Bible”

LESSONS

1. Review “The Four Agreements” particularly the first, “Be impeccable with your word.”

“Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself…Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”

2. Read and practice, “Attach-Detach” from “The Four Agreements: Companion Book.”

• Introduction (p.119-124)
• Man and Woman (p.125-127
• Attach-Detach (p.127-130)
• Zoom In-Zoom Out (p.131-133)

3. Read “Matter, Mind and Spirit” from “The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire.”

• Level 1: The Physical Domain (p.35-36)
• Level 2: The Quantum Domain (p.36-42)
• Level 3: The NonLocal Domain (p.43-45)

4. Read “Synchronicity in Nature” (p.59-67).

• Miracle of Human Body (for healing work)(p.65-67)
• Definition of Soul (p.87)
• Local and NonLocal Mind (p.100-104)

5. Read “Intention” (p.93-99).

6. Read “Attention and Intention” (p.134-137).

7. Read “The Role of Coincidence” (p.119-122) and “The Coincidence of the Universe” (The Big Bang was a miracle)(p.129-131).

8. Read “Desires and Archetypes” (p.147-152) and find your archetype (p.154-155). Use the suggested practice or create your own.

9. Practice “Synchrodestiny” (p.176-178).

10. Optional Reading and Practices.

• Meditation, Mantras and Sutras (p.167-176)
• Seven Principles (p.181-250)

11. Read “Shift from Romance to Friendship” from “Rumi; The Book of Love” (p.102).

• Poems (p.103-117)
• Favorite “The Wrist” (p.111-112)

12. Read “Wisdom from the Spirit” from the Holy Bible and “Love”.

• 1 Corinthians 1:6-16
• 1 Corinthians 13: 1-13

MEDITATIONS

God is…I am…
Love is…I am…
Joy is…I am…
Peace is…I am…